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Started by Wombat on Apr 2, 2013 6:21:03 PM
Potty training

I'm fucking useless really, currently bumbling through day one.

He's had a massive wee in the potty - straight off the bat. But since there's been 2 minor accidents, and a massive wee in the pull ups I put on him whilst making tea. Now he's decided the potty is Not Nice, and is probably about to do a shit in the pull ups too.

I've gone down the chocolate buttons bribery route btw.

Top Tips and Sterling Advice most welcome. Ta.

LilacWine - 02 Apr 2013 18:24:59 (#1 of 1250)


Wombat - 02 Apr 2013 18:27:24 (#2 of 1250)

I've decided that the recent potty meltdown was due to tiredness/hunger - As he slept for shit last night, and had no nap today.

Cutting myself and him some slack here, I think.

Still. I really don't want to bollocks this up, as I have this week off work, and would love to have him dry by Sunday.

LilacWine - 02 Apr 2013 18:32:36 (#3 of 1250)

Is he three yet? L is three and a quarter and is only just getting to grips with it now. What I mean is try not to get stressed about it if it doesn't happen, as it will at some point.

I longed for L to be potty trained for so long, but now that she's started to get it I'm already heartily sick of being dragged up the stairs twenty times a day only for her to squeeze out two drops and then demand stickers and chocolate. The chocolate inflation in this house is rampant.

schrodingerscat - 02 Apr 2013 18:34:31 (#4 of 1250)

I really don't want to bollocks this up, as I have this week off work, and would love to have him dry by Sunday.

Don't wish to put a dampner on you, Wombat, but it doesn't really work like that.

It might be that he is ready and will be dry by Sunday but it isn't really something you can make an appointment for.

A personal view? If you have a garden wait for summer and stick child and potty outside to get to know each other.

Wombat - 02 Apr 2013 18:36:37 (#5 of 1250)

I really don't want to wait for summer. He's nearly three, and there's a big chance he can do a month or so at nursery before the summer break, and to do that he has to be dry. This is my last week of leave before that can happen.

Yes, I'm quite aware that it doesn't work that way, Schro. But I'm having a go at it, and would rather not do anything wrong.

schrodingerscat - 02 Apr 2013 18:39:44 (#6 of 1250)

Wombat, the only thing you can do wrong is get stressed about it.

Relax and let it happen if it happens and not if it doesn't. If you're uptight, he'll be uptight.

Otherwise there are no rights and wrongs, just individual children and parents.

BrouTwo - 02 Apr 2013 18:55:11 (#7 of 1250)

Both of mine couldn't get the hang of learning to use the potty and remembering to leave time to remove their lower clothes, so I did a three stage training.

1. Nekkid from waist down at home. Encouraged/bribed to use potty. Only brief trips out of the house, during which I drag child to the toilet frequently.

2. Pants but no trousers at home. As above. Slightly longer trips out.

3. Pants and trousers worn. Longer trips out.

dominoboy - 02 Apr 2013 18:59:42 (#8 of 1250)

My wife and I find that having the pot in the bathroom and running the taps at the same time as chanting 'Peesss, peeess' while daughter is on the pot is working. It worked OK about 1 hour ago if that helps.

dominoboy - 02 Apr 2013 19:01:10 (#9 of 1250)

Pants but no trousers at home.

Oh THAT'S why the bloody nanny has the child half naked when I get home. THANK YOU!

TheSooz - 02 Apr 2013 19:05:46 (#10 of 1250)

We're nowhere near this stage but I'm subscribing for when we are. J isn't two until June but I'm gathering ideas for whenever he's ready. Good luck Wombat!

Wombat - 02 Apr 2013 19:08:42 (#11 of 1250)

Heh, excellent Dom. I shall try that before bath time.

LilacWine - 02 Apr 2013 19:13:48 (#12 of 1250)

L's problem was that she had full control over all her functions but would hold it all in with a grip of iron for hours at a time rather than do it on the potty or the toilet. Even when we could persuade her to sit on the potty she'd hold it in until she got up.

This time, on Good Friday when she'd held it in for the entire day until half-past five, and was lying on the settee in massive discomfort but still resisting all persuasion, cajolery, bribes etc, I cracked, picked her up kicking and screaming and physically forced her to sit on the toilet, at which point she immediately did a wee and was overjoyed. I can't say it's been plain sailing since then, but it's only Tuesday now and I can't keep her off the bloody toilet.

Poos next.

dominoboy - 02 Apr 2013 19:42:24 (#13 of 1250)

Good luck, Wombat. It seems to have good success for us. Now if you can help me stop this 2 year old climbing Mount Dining Table and scaring the cr@p out of me I'll be happy...

dominoboy - 02 Apr 2013 19:43:14 (#14 of 1250)

How old is she, Lilac?

LilacWine - 02 Apr 2013 19:48:16 (#15 of 1250)

Three and a quarter.

dominoboy - 02 Apr 2013 19:51:01 (#16 of 1250)

I'm a soppy old sod (43) but the joy of seeing her pride at doing her own wee/poo in the pot brought me close to tears. If you tell anyone that I may have to shoot you.

LilacWine - 02 Apr 2013 19:56:35 (#17 of 1250)

I won't tell anyone if you don't tell anyone that L has been mainly living on chocolate for the past few days.

dominoboy - 02 Apr 2013 19:59:33 (#18 of 1250)

Ours seems to think nutritional value derives from milk, dirt and my dressing gown rope. But don't tell.

Wombat - 02 Apr 2013 20:18:17 (#19 of 1250)

Well, end of day one (and that was really only after 2pm today, as we were out this morning). And there was one piss in the potty, two minor accidents and a big wee in pullups, one minor WON'T SIT ON THE POTTY MOMENT and zero poos. Which is concerning. Tomorrow will be poonami central. No frayed temper from my corner, and chocolate button count fairly low.

Let's see what tomorrow brings.

chardonnay - 02 Apr 2013 20:26:13 (#20 of 1250)

Let him choose some nice character pants so he has the incentive not to get George Pig wet.

I think it has to come from the child though. If they aren't physically ready or just not interested, you can't force them.

Peer pressure and deciding on their own that pants not nappies were cool was what motivated my two.

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