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Started by Ricolas on Feb 2, 2018 6:48:16 PM
Kissing Children
Ricolas - 02 Feb 2018 18:49:54 (#1 of 20)

My family are kissers. Always have been. Found it odd when I found others didn't.

phantlers - 02 Feb 2018 18:52:59 (#2 of 20)

Yes. Latest generation is an enthusiastic kisser though she isn't fussed on taking the dummy out first.

browserbutton - 02 Feb 2018 18:53:41 (#3 of 20)

'Brady's actions, predictably, provoked varied responses on social media'

Predictably, eh?

invicta - 02 Feb 2018 18:59:33 (#4 of 20)

Everything provokes mixed responses on social media. Personally I'm with the psychologist in the article on this one and was never keen when my kids did it (initially they were copying, of course) and have successfully steered them into more social forms of kissing or the traditional British approach of Never Getting Closer Than Arms Length To Anyone Unless You Really Have To.

phantlers - 02 Feb 2018 19:06:09 (#5 of 20)

I never read the link, just now skimmed it.

Q2 - the child knows when its time to stop. Grown up dauggters prefer a cheekbone-bump.

Peacock - 02 Feb 2018 19:08:49 (#6 of 20)

It depends on the person

FestinaLente - 02 Feb 2018 19:18:30 (#7 of 20)

I kiss both my adult children on the lips. There's certainly nothing sexy or romantic about it, and anyone who thinks so after seeing it has a very twisted mind.

People see what they want to see. I believe the puritanical and the guilty (who are quite often the same) are the ones who think this crosses the line.

widenation - 02 Feb 2018 19:20:56 (#8 of 20)

Yup. I still kiss my mum on the lips.

Ricolas - 02 Feb 2018 19:22:20 (#9 of 20)

I can see both sides of this as I have two sides of family, very different. But my grandmother kissed me until the end of her life and it would have been odd not to. No tongues.

thisonehasalittlehat - 02 Feb 2018 19:41:27 (#10 of 20)

Kissing children on the lips is wrong. Their faces are invariably smeared in something unsavory.

StephanieSuperpowers - 02 Feb 2018 19:45:11 (#11 of 20)

My two year old kisses on the lips. I think it's fine, certainly the idea of discouraging natural affection offered from a baby is worse than some people being uncomfortable.

airynothing - 02 Feb 2018 19:46:30 (#12 of 20)

My family were not lip-kissers; the family of one of my friends was. No problem. Except that her father insisted on kissing all of his daughters’ friends (not his son’s, I bet) on the lips, too.

HouseOfLametta - 02 Feb 2018 19:51:56 (#13 of 20)

Speaking as a representative of essentially Groundskeeper Willie’s family:

There's certainly nothing sexy or romantic about it, and anyone who thinks so after seeing it has a very twisted mind.

This. What the fuck is wrong with people that they have to invent things to complain about?

Ricolas - 02 Feb 2018 20:37:22 (#14 of 20)

Except that her father insisted on kissing all of his daughters’ friends (not his son’s, I bet) on the lips, too.

That is something different. Family is, you know, family. What you're talking about is another discussion for another thread.

Ricolas - 02 Feb 2018 20:41:47 (#15 of 20)

It's like bed sharing with a child. I never did it with my daughter, as used to drink quite heavily and was not keen to squashing the bairn. Now we are all older, I am not wild on the idea, but my wife will when I am away, and I think it is a rather lovely thing; once when my daughter had a ghastly nightmare when away, I acquiesced and it was lovely to have her near, and feeling safe.

She expects a kiss, and she will get one until she is uncomfortable, and then it will stop.

phantlers - 02 Feb 2018 20:42:30 (#16 of 20)

That ( #12) is very wrong, and on many levels not least the old man imposing his moral standard onto other,more vulnerable people.

My grown up girls do not always reciprocate a peck on the cheek and I am fairly confident we as a family are all ok with that.

Ricolas - 02 Feb 2018 20:46:11 (#17 of 20)

Thank for the #post clarification, Phants!

Kissing someone else's child? That is incredibly wrong.

phantlers - 02 Feb 2018 20:48:44 (#18 of 20)

heh, we cross posted and I saw the unfortunate potential for misreading ;)

airynothing - 02 Feb 2018 21:56:09 (#19 of 20)

#14 Just to be clear, I completely agree with you, and have no problem at all with lip kissing in the family.

I have no idea whether I might have been a little less grossed out by my friend’s dad if my own family had been lip kissers too. I think probably not.

airynothing - 02 Feb 2018 21:58:35 (#20 of 20)

Also, he wasn’t that bloody old! He was probably the age I am now when I first met him. Young enough to know better. (Old enough to be of a generation where sexual harassment was par for the course.)

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