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Started by Anchorman on Jan 17, 2021 8:17:49 PM
The Care Thread (Part 2)

Are you a carer for parents, spouse or friend? Do you have worries that you need to share or just want to vent about the whole shebang? Want to talk about the future and what sort of old person you might become? Well, then let this be your corner...

The old thread was here

Anchorman - 17 Jan 2021 20:19:18 (#1 of 1088)

Testing testing... 1 2 3

Pinkgum - 17 Jan 2021 20:20:03 (#2 of 1088)

Thanks, anchs :)

Anchorman - 17 Jan 2021 20:22:33 (#3 of 1088)

My pleasure and it is loading instantly for me now

Impedimenta - 17 Jan 2021 20:49:15 (#4 of 1088)


yumyum - 17 Jan 2021 21:13:58 (#5 of 1088)

Aw, you kept my description at the top :)

goldfinch - 17 Jan 2021 23:06:48 (#6 of 1088)

Hello, new thread!

Just coming to say my dad is improving. Still on an acute ward but sitting out of bed and not delirious like he was. Still unwell but definitely in a better place.

Anchorman - 18 Jan 2021 00:36:04 (#7 of 1088)

Excellent news.

goldfinch - 18 Jan 2021 00:41:30 (#8 of 1088)


yumyum - 18 Jan 2021 07:00:43 (#9 of 1088)

So pleased to read that.

goldfinch - 18 Jan 2021 10:53:40 (#10 of 1088)

Thanks. I've just spoken to him and he sounded practically back to his usual self. I'm so relieved.

Cavewoman - 18 Jan 2021 10:56:40 (#11 of 1088)

That's such good news. Maybe, as discussed elsewhere, it was just a severe reaction to his Covid vaccination?

goldfinch - 18 Jan 2021 12:14:12 (#12 of 1088)

I think it may well be. I wonder if they will report it as a possible adverse event as I know the doctors were interested that he'd had one a few days before.

Anchorman - 18 Jan 2021 21:15:18 (#13 of 1088)

Well my usual experience of the NHS around here( crap) continues.

The Occupational therapist was due back again today at noon. I waited until 1pm. He didn't arrive. I then called the contact number several times ( each time having to listen to blurb that lasted 2 minutes 30 seconds.. yes seriously that long.. and on not one occasion did anyone pick up the phone even though I waited in the queue 10 minutes on 3 separate occasions. I also emailed them. No response ...


Cavewoman - 18 Jan 2021 21:26:21 (#14 of 1088)

Oh no! How infuriating.

Anchorman - 18 Jan 2021 21:30:11 (#15 of 1088)

I've been spitting blood all day!

bossab2 - 18 Jan 2021 23:32:45 (#16 of 1088)

CV prerecorded messages...ramble, ramble

FleurDuMal - 21 Jan 2021 07:23:48 (#17 of 1088)

My dad had his vaccination last Saturday. The care home called me yesterday to say he has oedema in his feet and ankles. Could this be related?

Anchorman - 21 Jan 2021 21:31:31 (#18 of 1088)

I thought I'd mentioned this but looking up threads I see I didn't.

The riser equipment arrived last Saturday.This is a demo video of it in use:-

It's simple to use but mum has been for the most part an utter pain using it. Not standing up when requested to do so and sitting down when asked not to do so. There is nothing whatsoever wrong with her legs as when the Occupational therapist is here she uses her legs perfectly and complies with all instructions.

I'm ashamed to say I got very cross with her yesterday when she was playing at being totally helpless.

Yesterday evening for both her very experienced carer and me she was behaving like a sulking angry child and deliberately doing the exact opposite of what she was asked to do.

She was also making a terrible fuss and squealing whenever we moved her.When asked if she was in pain she said no.

She's basically sick of everything and doesn't like being lifted and constantly demands to be left alone and is spending the 7 hours or so she's in her chair miserable as sin, virtually ignoring me, with her head down doing nothing.

She's also at the moment eating no normal food at all. Thank God with constant reminders, she's drinking the high energy supplements prescribed for her by her GP.

Warning..if you’re squeamish or about to eat don’t read the next bit!

For the last few days she's been horrendously constipated and when I wipe her bottom you can feel seriously impacted faeces.

Anyway this afternoon she was complaining of acute discomfort in the bottom area so ,on my own and using the riser lift and amazingly with her complete cooperation I got her onto her commode.

She still couldn’t go to the loo and I remembered what one of the other carer’s had told me the other day that it is possible to gently massage a patient’s anus and this can get things moving. So I thought “what the hell I’ll give it a try” and using the riser I lifted her up a bit off the commode and to my amazement it worked!

Never in my life did I think I’d be massaging my mother’s bum and then grinning from ear to ear when she pooped!

She is now much more comfortable and I’m hoping her state of mind might improve over the next day or two.

Oh. I forgot to mention she got so angry and aggravated yesterday and this morning that she tried to punch and kick me several times so I would “leave her in peace”

Thank God for my karate training as she aimed a particularly vicious kick at my groin and it was only a lighting block that saved me from a pain worse than death!

JennyRad - 21 Jan 2021 21:34:50 (#19 of 1088)

You are a saint, Anchs. There is no other explanation for how you cope.

Cavewoman - 21 Jan 2021 21:41:50 (#20 of 1088)

I was about to come here and ask whether the OT had eventually turned up, Anchs, but it sounds as though s/he did.

Yes, dealing with severe constipation is no joke. Caveman used to suffer, as all muscular movement, both autonomous and non-autonomous, gradually fails with Parkinson's. I've done the same as you did and even, a couple of times, digitally dug out the faeces. It's amazing what one can get used to and even celebrate!

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