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Started by DarthBane on Feb 21, 2021 3:27:51 AM
Not allowed to attend a husband’s funeral....

OK, here’s the deal. A woman I know had been with her husband for 18 years. When her and him met, he was already married. He left the first wife for her. She was blamed for being the home wrecker. She had an affair on him last Autumn, which lead to them separating. He suddenly died not long ago, and even though they weren’t divorced, his side of the family and his daughters barred her from the funeral, although she is genuinely remorseful, or says she is, still loved him and wanted to attend. Are they right to bar her,, or is it just petty and spiteful revenge?

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Delighted_User - 21 Feb 2021 07:43:35 (#1 of 14)

The scenario doesn't work. If they're not divorced, she's next of kin. Think of something better.

tasselhoff - 21 Feb 2021 09:06:31 (#2 of 14)

BAM!

Dubris - 21 Feb 2021 11:28:50 (#3 of 14)

I find it very easy to imagine one part of a family making it abundantly clear to another part of a family that they're not wanted at a funeral.

Taking this at face value, now is not the time for the estranged widow to make a scene by forcing her way into the funeral ceremony. Leave that to the soap opera writing teams. If she's genuinely sorry for the hurt her past conduct caused the deceased then it would be massively counterproductive for her to compound it by causing further hurt to his daughters.

CarlosFandango - 21 Feb 2021 11:31:18 (#4 of 14)

How much effort goes into the contrived dodgines of the grammar? One idly wonders.

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spartak - 21 Feb 2021 12:33:47 (#6 of 14)

I don’t understand funerals TBH. My cousin died recently and all of her squabbling siblings went to the church and then went home and are still not talking to each other. I’m insisting I don’t have a funeral. Just burn me and bin me.

solomongursky - 21 Feb 2021 12:33:49 (#7 of 14)

She had an affair on him last Autumn

It was the crushing injuries that did for him.

Shadrack22 - 21 Feb 2021 12:34:33 (#8 of 14)

#5

That was what I thought.

phantlers - 21 Feb 2021 12:37:03 (#9 of 14)

Interesting posting history. Might easily be DB2.

solomongursky - 21 Feb 2021 12:39:57 (#10 of 14)

I bet he isn't even a Sith Lord.

bossab2 - 21 Feb 2021 13:00:08 (#11 of 14)

Is this funeral in Leicestershire ?

DarthBane - 21 Feb 2021 13:47:11 (#12 of 14)

I am the same DarthBane from the original GUT, and also this funeral is in Canada. I’m not abundantly clear if they’re just separated or actually divorced TBH, I should have made that clear when I posted. Some of her friends think the relatives are being cruel and spiteful towards her.

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pmcblonde - 06 Sep 2021 21:46:00 (#14 of 14)

Mumsnet AIBU is far better for this sort of advice

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