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Started by popstar7 on May 30, 2022 9:17:39 PM
You’ll have had your dinner, then?

“Sad, rude and true ... As someone who has lived in #Norway, #Sweden, #Denmark, #Netherlands and #Germany, I am afraid I can testify to the anecdotal accuracy of this based on my own experience and that of peers!”


Does the fridge door remain firmly closed when YOU have guests?

popstar7 - 30 May 2022 21:20:45 (#1 of 46)

Thread title comes from a vaguely recalled joke - possibly Billy Connolly - about guests being let know immediately on arrival not to expect any hospitality. Maybe a cup of tea. If you’re lucky.

JohnIlly - 30 May 2022 20:21:31 (#2 of 46)

"Ye'll have had yer tea?"

popstar7 - 30 May 2022 21:21:51 (#3 of 46)

Yeah, that’s the one.

Shadrack22 - 30 May 2022 21:30:36 (#4 of 46)

Aberdonian hospitality.

ReverendBlueJeans - 30 May 2022 21:42:02 (#5 of 46)

Edinburgh actually, but Scotland's all a blur to poor Shadders.

popstar7 - 30 May 2022 21:49:04 (#6 of 46)

I was talking to a Ukrainian woman at the weekend who’s being hosted by an older, I think single, guy. She said he invited his son and daughter-in-law over one afternoon and she was surprised that he didn’t prepare anything for them to eat.

After a while someone suggested ordering pizza. When the pizza arrived everyone ate from their chosen box. When they were leaving they took their individual boxes with whatever they had left over home with them.

She described this with an air of utter incredulity. Nobody shared anything.

moto748 - 30 May 2022 23:08:50 (#7 of 46)

I always understood that that phrase was meant indicate the difference between Edinburgh and Glasgow, is that not right?

Tomnoddy - 30 May 2022 23:22:22 (#8 of 46)

It's also a load of shite. Among certain people in Edinburgh, possibly, but not my family and friends. When something like this happens in Embra, it's just as much of a shock as it would be in Glasgow.

popstar7 - 31 May 2022 00:28:51 (#9 of 46)

You’re not going to be offered anything in Scandinavia, Holland or the top bit of Germany, by all accounts. Scotland can sort of hold its head up. England, not so much.

Did make me think of what’s considered polite or hospitable if you have family/friends/guests around.

CarlosFandango - 31 May 2022 00:46:55 (#10 of 46)

When WE have guests there is invariably an offer of something to eat and/or drink.

I have friends and family in Norway and Sweden and my experiences there are not noticeably different to anywhere else, frankly.

Perhaps people who routinely offer hospitality also receive it.

Moschops - 31 May 2022 13:13:41 (#11 of 46)

You're lucky if I don't set the dog on you

Shadrack22 - 31 May 2022 14:49:30 (#12 of 46)

Visitors are always offered food and drink at our house. It is just basic good manners.

popstar7 - 31 May 2022 14:55:33 (#13 of 46)

A variation on the theme. With BBC4-viewer appeal -

limegreen - 31 May 2022 15:11:27 (#14 of 46)
Another take on why this is

Oldbathrobe1 - 31 May 2022 15:11:59 (#15 of 46)

When we were burned out in 1969 we went to live briefly on the floor of a school assembly hall. A cousin invited my parents over for... tea and biscuits.

The resentment seethed half a century later. Not even a dinner.

popstar7 - 31 May 2022 15:26:58 (#16 of 46)

Interesting take, the Norse/Viking idea. My first thought was that the deep red areas are the heartland of the Lutheran tradition with its cultural emphasis on self-reliance and individualism. Protestant Work Ethic and all that.

Macpaddy - 31 May 2022 15:34:23 (#17 of 46)

We always have f. I food and drink for guests. Like Shadders I took it as good manners. Even Moschops offers them a dip in his crisp bag.

Lawlsie - 31 May 2022 15:39:59 (#18 of 46)

No one not even the meter man, when we had meter men, ever gets to cross the threshold of my house without being offered something to eat and drink.

I'd be mortified to invite someone into my home and not offer them something.

Zugunruhe1 - 31 May 2022 16:01:40 (#19 of 46)

At our house, it's the offer of a cup of tea/coffee and some biscuits. If it's mid-afternoon on a weekend, there might be cheese and olives as well.

donttellhimpike - 31 May 2022 16:08:13 (#20 of 46)

No one not even the meter man, when we had meter men, ever gets to cross the threshold of my house without being offered something to eat and drink.

That has made me realise I do this as well, every single person that comes in to the hose, gasman, plumber, estate agents doing the routine rental property check, all get offered a cup of tea.

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