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Started by surferboogiewhatever on Aug 30, 2015 7:06:25 PM
A minor question of Facebook etiquette

If your friend is the sort of person who puts "xx" at the bottom of every message in a chat, and you are not, do you think she'd think you were being unfriendly?

BallyMoney - 30 Aug 2015 19:12:40 (#1 of 2571)

probably not, unless she is a bit psycho. My "groovy auntie" puts "xx" on every message its just some peoples' way.

TommyDGNR8 - 30 Aug 2015 19:16:17 (#2 of 2571)

In fact, if you suddenly start doing it, she might think you're taking the piss.

quartus - 30 Aug 2015 19:19:39 (#3 of 2571)

Then again, if she's the sort of person who's miffed if you don't click "like" on her posts, maybe she needs some other kind of support?

I have family members who try to use Facebook as a form of emotional blackmail, but that might not apply to yours.

surferboogiewhatever - 30 Aug 2015 19:22:29 (#4 of 2571)

#3 - no, she& #39;s not like that at all. Perfectly normal and reasonable in every respect except for excessive use of the x key.

quartus - 30 Aug 2015 19:27:01 (#5 of 2571)

Hey then. Just pucker up and take it like a ... whatever !

hug and kisses xxxx oooo

Bleu11 - 30 Aug 2015 19:59:21 (#6 of 2571)

Do just one at the end of each chat session. She may get the message too.

Lemongrab - 30 Aug 2015 20:24:12 (#7 of 2571)

Can't believe you would talk about me behind my back, Surfer xxxxxxxc

Cavewoman - 30 Aug 2015 20:36:20 (#8 of 2571)

I have exactly the same problem with a couple of FB friends. I omit the kisses, usually.

thePiMan - 31 Aug 2015 09:21:54 (#9 of 2571)

I have family members who try to use Facebook as a form of emotional blackmail, but that might not apply to yours.

It applies to them all. Every single account on Facebook has at least one of those as a friend. that is a fact that I just made up but is 100% troot

surferboogiewhatever - 02 Sep 2015 18:32:53 (#10 of 2571)

Bump - another minor question.

Is there a way to stop someone being able to invite you to events without blocking them altogether? I have an acquaintance who is a DJ in a musical genre that is really not my cup of tea. She invites me to approximately 3 "her genre" nights a week. I doubt if she actually thinks "ooh, I must invite boogie" - more likely she just hits "invite all" - but I seem to spend a lot of time reading about these bloody nights and the chances of me ever deciding to go to one are probably about the same as the chances of me ever getting to jam on stage with Ritchie Blackmore.

elghunden - 02 Sep 2015 18:35:10 (#11 of 2571)

I don't think you can stop them without telling them directly that you would rather be hit over the head repeatedly with a blunt instrument than listen to her DJ.

mingmong - 02 Sep 2015 19:27:26 (#12 of 2571)

I face this dilemma when exchanging text messages with the mums at the Minglet's school. These are the kind of people who routinely put an 'x' at the end of even the most routine and innocuous message. I, however, am not. On the whole, I rather be thought of as a weird repressed Englishman due to my lack of x's, than some sort of perve or inept lothario (</lapsed>)

BrouTwo - 02 Sep 2015 19:30:34 (#13 of 2571)

Could this become a general purpose thread to bitch about things on social media you don't have the guts to mention to the offenders concerned?

I'll start: Thanks for letting me know you've become a vegan. Thanks for reminding me at least twice a week that you've become a vegan. Thanks for posting all those links about veganism. OH HAVE YOU RECENTLY BECOME VEGAN? YOU NEVER MENTIONED.

Cavewoman - 02 Sep 2015 19:30:49 (#14 of 2571)

boogie, I get multiple invitations to events my son's organising or DJing at, in Bangkok, which he's obviously sent out to everyone on his contacts list. I don't even bother to open them.

BrouTwo - 02 Sep 2015 19:31:26 (#15 of 2571)

Imagine his surprise if you turned up to one, Cavey.

Cavewoman - 02 Sep 2015 19:33:47 (#16 of 2571)

Oh, I've been to a few - but always with advance notice. Most embarrassing to have the DJ dedicate a number to "Mum - the hottest chick in town" and have hundreds of beautiful young things gazing incredulously at fat, frumpy old me.

tasselhoff - 02 Sep 2015 19:40:37 (#17 of 2571)

Just leave Facebook. You won't regret it

elghunden - 02 Sep 2015 19:46:39 (#18 of 2571)

I love fb.

The "see less posts like this" button is your friend. It gets rid of some of the more vacuous posts.

Cavewoman - 02 Sep 2015 19:54:34 (#19 of 2571)

Does it really say "see less posts"?? FFS, FB.

surferboogiewhatever - 02 Sep 2015 19:56:26 (#20 of 2571)

tass - it is incredibly useful for me and those of my friends who share an interest that means going to lots of different places, sometimes at short notice when the weather becomes unexpectedly suitable. So much easier to post one short message saying, "Let's do X at Y," than to phone 10 people, then phone the first few back again to let them know how many of the later few were interested and whether it's worth going ahead with it.

That's not to say there isn't a lot of crap on there as well. My personal least favourites are:

1. "stream-of-consciousness" posters: "I could really fancy a piece of cheese, Rupert has got a very slight temperature, do you think I should have my hair cut?"

2. One-side-of-a-conversation grudge holders: "I can't stand people who talk about me behind my back. You know who you are."

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