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Started by Agaliarept on May 20, 2020 3:41:37 PM
School Reunions - Are they worth it?

Some sort of pre school reunion is starting to happen on my Whatsapp.

A few have started a group and have been adding everyone who went to my year at school.

I've been watching the chat like you would watching any group of strangers chat..a bit disconnected not sure if it's appropriate to chip in.

See post 1:

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Agaliarept - 20 May 2020 15:41:45 (#1 of 57)

Anyway it started as an attempt to solidify details about when we could all meet up. (Which I thought was odd considering current events)

People have been chatting together obviously as a few of them didn't move far from school so stayed in contact somewhat.

I haven't seen most of them in the best part of 25 years.

Part of me was really on the fence whether to even consider going back but in the last couple of days the name of a person in our year who transitioned has come up.

People in the group were being ok but a few too many times casual jokes are slipping in at this person's expense.

I'm not that happy about the chat but I'm not going to waste any energy trying to change the mind of people I don't know but it is making me think, do I really need this?

So basically my point is have you done any school reunions?

Were they worth it?

Did you cop off with a teacher?

tasselhoff - 20 May 2020 15:44:06 (#2 of 57)

I missed mine. They didn't bother asking as they knew I was in France somehow.

They obviously though I was an utter cunt cos everyone else turned up

Agaliarept - 20 May 2020 15:46:47 (#3 of 57)

I missed mine.

You're no use to me tass.

;)

TheVoiceOfReason - 20 May 2020 15:59:28 (#4 of 57)

I would say yes. I went to a 25 year one some years ago with some trepidation but it was actually really nice. People do mature and change. And in my case I heard stuff about how I'd been perceived ("You were so confident, you just did your own thing, you didn't care what people thought") which was so amazing, it certainly wasn't how it felt at the time! Go for it.

FrankieTeardrop - 20 May 2020 16:00:12 (#5 of 57)

you just did your own thing, you didn't care what people thought


You sure those were compliments?

darkhorse - 20 May 2020 16:02:35 (#6 of 57)

Even about three years after leaving school, a bloke accosted me at a party, knew my name, what class I was in etc. and embarrassingly I had no idea who he was (seemed like a nice fella too). So I had to pretend.

I'm certainly not repeating that on a giant scale 30 years on. And half the people who are etched into my brain permanently are only there because they were awful people.

Verdigris - 20 May 2020 16:02:39 (#7 of 57)

I've never been asked to one.

</billynomates>

FrankieTeardrop - 20 May 2020 16:04:37 (#8 of 57)

My closest seven friends are all from school (some from pre-school). If I wanted to see the others, I would do.

Tenesmus - 20 May 2020 16:06:41 (#9 of 57)

I can't think of anything worse. And, wot FT said (although 3 for me not 7. And I don't want to see any others at all).

GrrrIbdis - 20 May 2020 16:12:57 (#10 of 57)

I went to one and had a pleasant time with a bunch of old friends and then met the woman who'd been our form teacher for about three years. She recalled all my mates, but hadn't the faintest trace of a memory of me. I'd been quite fond of her, too.

Agaliarept - 20 May 2020 16:14:43 (#11 of 57)

Even about three years after leaving school, a bloke accosted me at a party, knew my name, what class I was in etc. and embarrassingly I had no idea who he was (seemed like a nice fella too). So I had to pretend.

Ah now that's a great point. Also a few years after leaving I was accosted in the pub by an ex school mate. He remembered me but I couldn't place him at all.

He told me to go fuck myself and left in a huff.

I may skip it.

Agaliarept - 20 May 2020 16:15:52 (#12 of 57)

And in my case I heard stuff about how I'd been perceived

Another reason in the 'skip it' column.

darkhorse - 20 May 2020 16:17:31 (#13 of 57)

but I couldn't place him at all.

At that point you have to try a bit of acting. "....aaaah! Yes! Of course, how are you?"

Tenesmus - 20 May 2020 16:18:37 (#14 of 57)

I was in a cafè about two years after I left school and a voice said my name, I look round, didn't recognise him. He had to tell me who he was. I'd been in the same class as him for 4 years, but he'd tripled in size. Sideways, mostly.

FrankieTeardrop - 20 May 2020 16:18:44 (#15 of 57)

Another reason in the 'skip it' column.


A couple of years after leaving school I bumped into a woman who'd been in the year below me, and got the same school bus. She used to rain abuse down on me, and my friends, every day, made my life quite unpleasant.

Anyway, here we were, both E'd up, and she told me how envious she'd been of me and my peer group, how we looked like we didn't give a toss, and how unhappy her life was at the time, so she took out her anger on me.

Not often one gets that kind of closure with regard to people who've bullied you at school

darkhorse - 20 May 2020 16:20:04 (#16 of 57)

Doesn't that happen at JTT meets between online combatants?

FrankieTeardrop - 20 May 2020 16:21:07 (#17 of 57)

I wouldn't know, I've never been in combat with anyone on here

AdonisBlue - 20 May 2020 16:22:04 (#18 of 57)

Aren't these reunions just excuses for people to compare how wealthy they now are? I couldn't think of anything worse than finding out the school bell end bully was a millionaire married to a tory MP. Oh, I already know that is true.

AdonisBlue - 20 May 2020 16:23:18 (#19 of 57)

15 Es are good! Trouble is when you came down you'd be back to hating each other.

Shadrack22 - 20 May 2020 16:24:39 (#20 of 57)

So basically my point is have you done any school reunions?

No. I’d quite like a brief A4 summary of what people are doing now, but as for meeting them - no thanks.

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