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Started by KanKhaderKhanKan on Jun 30, 2020 8:40:36 PM
Who here checks-out the reddit relationship folder for a giggle?

Come on hands up.

Fine? Here's one delectable reddit relationship that I dare you to read and not feel like puking once you're done and trust me once you've done reading this all of the daft 'girlfriend we need to talk' threads over on personal will appear remarkably gentle:

For excerpt from the above link see my first post.

KanKhaderKhanKan - 30 Jun 2020 20:42:06 (#1 of 56)

Excerpt from the above link:

I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years and living together for 1. A few weeks ago I started to notice that, well, he kind of smelled bad. Not like a one-time thing, but day to day, he smelled pretty poorly. Then a lightbulb went off in my head and I suddenly realized I had not seen him shower in a long time.

I brought it up awkwardly and he said, without shame, yeah, he has not been showering since he doesn't have to go out. He works from home, we can't go out to socialize of course, we get groceries delivered, etc. So he says there is no point to showering. Then he says "let me show you my routine", and he goes to our pantry and pulls out a spray Febreeze bottle and mists his clothes with it.

I was like dude it doesn't work that great no offense you start to smell. He scoffed and said I am exaggerating. I was like no, febreze is not a good way to be clean, he said I am ruining his "home comfort style", I was like what? We had a big argument about it.

He is refusing to shower until "all restrictions are lifted" and he has to go out into the world. He is adamant showering is not needed. He says it is a waste of water. As a "compromise" he offered to become naked once a week and "wipe himself down" but would not shower.

I said this is disgusting and I wasn't going to make love with somebody who has not showered for months and he began to cry. He says I am trying to shame him and says "I'll use more Febreze" as if that is what the issue is.

I am starting to think we may have to break up because of this crazy issue, he will not budge on this he is "taking a stand" against showering for some reason, but insists when lockdown is 100% over he will go back to showering. He also hasn't changed his underwear for a week by the way because he says laundry is also a "waste" so he wants to "stretch everything out" and says Febreze "works on boxer briefs as well as a sofa cushion." I am so not about this.

Am I overreacting? Is it normal for guys to just Febreze themselves instead of showering? Should I really end my relationship over this since it looks like lockdowns are starting to open up pretty significantly and maybe in a few weeks he'll go back to showering? I am so confused.

For a brief few moments I thought that reddit writers sounded eerily like one of JtT Haven posters.

Dubris - 30 Jun 2020 21:41:33 (#2 of 56)

That's a whole variety pack of misery and confusion, isn't it?

KanKhaderKhanKan - 01 Jul 2020 00:26:45 (#3 of 56)

I wonder if there's microbiology dissertation somewhere on the link between the efficacy of Febreeze and germ theory.

carterbrandon - 01 Jul 2020 00:30:21 (#4 of 56)

"He sounds dreamy."

Ebadlun - 01 Jul 2020 00:33:10 (#5 of 56)

I don't see anyone from day to day, but I still gotta be nice for myself. I feel horrible if I'm not bathed.

carterbrandon - 01 Jul 2020 00:43:48 (#6 of 56)

The dirty bastard'll be developing trench knob; growing fucking mushrooms under there.

MaryMC - 01 Jul 2020 02:00:27 (#7 of 56)

You'd be surprised how many threads about vile male hygiene there are on Mumsnet.

Tinymcsmithy - 01 Jul 2020 02:10:39 (#8 of 56)

The Mumsnet one about an employee’s father who would pop over once a day/week to take a stinky crap in their toilet was hilarious.

widenation - 01 Jul 2020 03:27:31 (#9 of 56)

Standard deodorant works way better than Febreze for masking bad hygiene - that's my tip. Got away with it for years. Also if you can't be arsed to have a shower through laziness, have a bath instead - run the bath with shower gel - drop yourself in, brief scrub then get back to your playstation or whatever and dry off naturally - it's good for the skin.

Delighted_User - 01 Jul 2020 04:10:17 (#10 of 56)

I have never understood the not bathing or showering out of laziness thing, and I'm the world's biggest slacker. At least if you've got a bath or shower under the same roof, and at this particular time in history most of us posting here do. It's something you indulge in because it makes you feel so much better with the minimum of effort.

widenation - 01 Jul 2020 04:17:44 (#11 of 56)

Every day though? in the middle of winter? It's bad for the skin, man.

Delighted_User - 01 Jul 2020 04:36:23 (#12 of 56)

In winter a bath is lovely and warm. If it's bad for the skin, I can't say I've noticed.

widenation - 01 Jul 2020 05:00:58 (#13 of 56)

There's a large industry based around it.

Dubris - 01 Jul 2020 06:59:21 (#14 of 56)

Which does not mean that regular washing is a bad thing. Or in the case of the man in question, any washing at all.

browserbutton - 01 Jul 2020 07:25:04 (#15 of 56)

If you can't be arsed to wash, what about bottom-wiping?

MaconLeary - 01 Jul 2020 07:38:33 (#16 of 56)

Ha. I remember a similar thread where a boyfriend didn't because he thought "touching his anus was gay".

Agaliarept - 01 Jul 2020 10:14:18 (#17 of 56)

Standard deodorant works way better than Febreze for masking bad hygiene - that's my tip.

It isn't called "shower in a can" for nothing!

Srsly tho, if you're in a relationship and your partner tells you something you are doing is making them not want to be around you, and that isn't enough to at lease start a change in your behaviour, I'm afraid you may be done with each other.

tasselhoff - 01 Jul 2020 10:19:01 (#18 of 56)

I normally shower every three days or so, in order to avoid killing all the friendly bacteria on my skin. But since I've been taking DHEA to help with weight training I find I'm starting to pong under the arms after a day or less.

I've had to stop using deodorant too, as it irritates my skin too much.

In short, I'm a biohazard.

carterbrandon - 01 Jul 2020 10:19:21 (#19 of 56)

#17: Even if:

"Love is...... bursting into tears at the thought of having a wash for them"?

Agaliarept - 01 Jul 2020 11:20:37 (#20 of 56)

I normally shower every three days or so, in order to avoid killing all the friendly bacteria on my skin.

I'll be honest even though I bath every 2-3 days I haven't washed my hair more than a couple of times during lock down.

I'm lucky that it's not naturally greasy and not going anywhere but home and Tesco, it just doesn't seem to be getting dirty.

bursting into tears at the thought of having a wash for them"?

I'm not sure that person would be ready for a physical relationship then.

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