No smilies, no avatars, no flashing gifs. Just discuss the issues of the day, from last night's telly via football to science or philosophy.
Started by SharkPatoo on Sep 14, 2020 7:25:47 PM
Networking

I'm terrible at this, my people skills are awful, I have joined Linkedin but hate every grim corporate atom of it. What does everyone else do so they can buy food?

Previous
|
Next
|
Top
|
Bottom
DogBreath - 23 Sep 2020 16:26:52 (#1 of 74)

I rent out spare space as short-term storage.

Agaliarept - 23 Sep 2020 16:29:57 (#2 of 74)

I'm terrible at this, my people skills are awful, I have joined Linkedin but hate every grim corporate atom of it.

Totally agree. I've often commented to my bosses that it's not very inclusive to have one personality type (outgoing) that gets on while leaving those of us who'd be part of the scenery to flounder.

They agreed.

Then probably laughed at my career options at one of their networking shindigs.

What does everyone else do so they can buy food?

Keep my head down and try not to get fired.

tasselhoff - 23 Sep 2020 16:31:50 (#3 of 74)

I'm starting farming on my bit of land so I don't have to buy food. Job prospects are dismal.

DogBreath - 23 Sep 2020 16:40:47 (#4 of 74)

Heads up. The rules on banning evictions has just been lifted. That means there will be lots of people needing short-term storage. You can do it for a fraction of the cost of the big rip-off storage companies. A win win situation for everyone.

SharkPatoo - 23 Sep 2020 16:41:52 (#5 of 74)

I don't have much space! Luckily in no danger of being evicted though.

FrankieTeardrop - 23 Sep 2020 16:43:47 (#6 of 74)

What does everyone else do so they can buy food?


Just be interested in people, networking flows from that

DogBreath - 23 Sep 2020 16:48:20 (#7 of 74)

Shark,

One room (or garage) is enough.

Agaliarept - 23 Sep 2020 17:30:21 (#8 of 74)

Just be interested in people, networking flows from that

And what if after being interested in people you find them mostly uninteresting do you do?

Genuine question.

I'm trying to flourish this point without sounding like a cnut but typing out that I'm not that interested in the people outside of the circle I've created (partner, family, friends) just sounds like an insult at myself.

I'm pretty left field when it comes to things I enjoy so trying to make friends with some of the very MOR people at work is a real drag for me.

browserbutton - 23 Sep 2020 17:33:33 (#9 of 74)

Attending conferences can be interesting, but also tiring when lanyard-festooned people are FURIOUSLY NETWORKING.

Crayola - 23 Sep 2020 17:46:11 (#10 of 74)

Do you mean networking for jobs? All my work comes from 'networking'. In world Covid it means being a member of a few social media groups and chats, and trying to be vaguely interesting and knowledgeable about industry things. And being interested in other people's similar chat. It's very low effort. BC (before Covid) it meant exactly the same most of the time, but that's because I work in digital. I would go to the odd cheap or free event and when there were things with a vaguely professional angle that other industry folk invited me to I would also go to broaden the people I know. Bit of a chat. Be interested in them. No more than once every few months. It's enough to keep me in work and not have to do job interviews.

FrankieTeardrop - 23 Sep 2020 17:48:23 (#11 of 74)

And what if after being interested in people you find them mostly uninteresting do you do?


Everyone has a story Aga.

I always thought I was rubbish at networking because I saw it as a work thing - my music based networking just seems like fun. I was surprised when a friend thought I liked/was good at networking, I’d never thought of putting on events as networking I guess.

So, now I like networking because I don’t see it as chatting to fellow workers at a conference or after work do, but rather as getting to know people who are interesting and doing interesting things. It’s just nothing to do with my day job

Crayola - 23 Sep 2020 17:52:27 (#12 of 74)

I'm lucky in that I like what I do (if not always the work I am doing) so find it interesting to talk with people who have their own skills. Makes it easier than having to feign it!

SharkPatoo - 23 Sep 2020 17:56:25 (#13 of 74)

my music based networking just seems like fun.

That's what I want to do but not really in person, as it were.

FrankieTeardrop - 23 Sep 2020 17:56:39 (#14 of 74)

I never see most of my work colleagues, the ones I interact with. They’re spread across forty-five offices, twenty countries, four continents! So my chats are phone and email. Given they’re so spread out there’s plenty of interesting stuff to chat about around work stuff

Agaliarept - 23 Sep 2020 17:58:15 (#15 of 74)

I always thought I was rubbish at networking because I saw it as a work thing - my music based networking just seems like fun. I was surprised when a friend thought I liked/was good at networking, I’d never thought of putting on events as networking I guess.

Ah but I'm not networking outside of work either. I rarely strike up a conversation with someone I don't know. Basically I'm what used to be called 'shy'.

They’re spread across forty-five offices, twenty countries, four continents! So my chats are phone and email.

Same here. I don't have a problem talking to people as our paths cross at work and in fairness I'm told I make a good impression on new people..where I struggle at work is seeking out a particular person to improve my network and job opportunities.

FrankieTeardrop - 23 Sep 2020 17:58:49 (#16 of 74)

That's what I want to do but not really in person, as it were.


People love telling you about their music or art project. Just let them do it.

In fact, that would be my strategy to win The Apprentice, in the unlikely event I became a contestant. In that first day, everyone is trying to tell everyone else how great they are. I’d just sit back, listen, ask them questions. You’d never be picked to go in the boardroom then, absent a major fuck up

FrankieTeardrop - 23 Sep 2020 18:00:09 (#17 of 74)

I rarely strike up a conversation with someone I don't know.


I’ve just coined the phrase “temporal illusion” to describe that - they are only someone you don’t know right now, they could be a dear friend in a year’s time.

FrankieTeardrop - 23 Sep 2020 18:01:40 (#18 of 74)

where I struggle at work is seeking out a particular person to improve my network and job opportunities.


Struggle as in you don’t know who to ask, or don’t know what to ask them?

SharkPatoo - 23 Sep 2020 18:03:59 (#19 of 74)

People love telling you about their music or art project. Just let them do it.

I want them to shut up and listen about mine though!

I have come to realise that I have three friends who are so self-absorbed they will talk for hours about themselves but completely turn off (look out the window/look at phone etc) whan I am 5 seconds in to saying something. Or maybe I'm boring.

FrankieTeardrop - 23 Sep 2020 18:05:57 (#20 of 74)

I want them to shut up and listen about mine though!


Why?

I have come to realise that I have three friends who are so self-absorbed they will talk for hours about themselves but completely turn off (look out the window/look at phone etc) whan I am 5 seconds in to saying something. Or maybe I'm boring.


Is interesting in conjunction with the first quote. Karma, innit

Previous
|
Next
|
Top
|
Bottom
Check Subscriptions
|
Home » Work and Careers